Exodus president Alan Chambers has finally heard about a new living arrangement some gay christians are accepting called “covenant friendships”. Apparently its some sort of same sex relationship with no sex involved and its practitioners believe it to be acceptable to God. In a Charisma Magazine column he talked about it.
During lunch, my friend asked my views on “covenant friendships”. I’d never heard that term, but quickly realized she was referring to sexless committed relationships between members of the same gender. I immediately called them sinful. She was shocked. So was I. Apparently, we don’t share what I consider to be fairly cut and dry biblical position on this issue. So I asked her to give me a first hand account of such a relationship that she saw as healthy. She went on to share the story of a Christian lesbian who believes that homosexual behavior is sinful, but holds no hope of ever experiencing heterosexuality. The thought of living a single life was too much for her to bear and so she developed a committed non-sexual relationship with another woman. They held a commitment ceremony, bought a house together, combined their finances and are trying to live happily ever after. They live in separate bedrooms, but in every other sense of the word, they are partners. “What’s wrong with that?” my friend asked. Everything.
Although, we’ve disagreed with Chambers in the past on some things, on this one he’s right. There is nothing holy or biblically acceptable about two men or two women “committing” to a sexless relationship because they dont forsee themselves being heterosexual.
Early last year when I was asked about a variation of this by someone I knew, I immediately balked. Something isnt right about it. For starters, its a compromise based on a false premise. The false premise is that there is no possibility of becoming heterosexual. Says who? But heterosexuality is not the goal of a follower of Christ in the first place and certainly its no indicator of sanctification. There are plenty of heterosexuals on their way to hell.
We talked abou that here by asking is “same sex romantic love” a sin? And here we looked at the validity of “homo-emotional” relationships. We also talked about the whole “I cant be heterosexual” issue here with some people who see that as a goal. To repeat and make matters very clear: the goal is holiness.
As long as people keep looking for excuses to live differently than how the scriptures tell us to live, satan will keep supplying these false relationship options.