It would have been a very nice gesture if J. Moss would have taken responsibility last year when his adultery case was made public by the Detroit News. Moss’ failure to show up for a court ordered hearing jumpstarted the whole affair and pushed it into the public eye.
Attempting to rebound from the scandal, Moss who’s marketing his new album casts blame at bloggers who he alleges printed rumors about him. I dont advocate rumor-mongering, but I also think it would have served Moss much better to be humble and accept what he did without blaming others.
In his Verity album promo profile, J. Moss talks a lot about his hurt, pain and suffering, but is mum about the hurt of the woman and child he fathered in Atlanta. He reportedly wanted the mother to abort the baby boy.
“Every now and then a person gets to a point on their journey where they discover precisely what their trajectory is,” J testifies, “where you’re supposed to be or where you’re supposed to be or where you’re supposed to land. That’s what 2008 and 2009 has been for me. I’ve been through challenges that tested my faith, my merit, my credibility…even my will to live. There were times when I was at my human wit’s end and wanted to take myself out! In the midst of all that brokenness – a shattered heart and a shattered life – God picked me up and dealt with me one on one. He said, ‘That emptiness you’re feeling…that’s exactly where you are supposed to be. So many others are feeling that same emptiness, but I need you to be my beacon to show them how to overcome it.’ It was a life changing epiphany for me.”
AP music reviewer Amiee Sims noted that “Moss indirectly addresses the issue in songs like “Rebuild”: “Oh Lord/rebuild me/for I’ve taken what you’ve made and thrown it’s value away.” But the album’s upbeat tone emphasizes moving on. As the Grammy-nominated singer notes in the breezy, title track, he’s “not perfect,” and “underneath all of us are really just the same/I’m just James.”
Right, we’re not perfect but considering the magnitude of adultery, why not emphasize God’s standards instead of hyping some self serving cover line?
Moss says the “defaming comments” pushed him to consider suicide multiple times.
That’s from a Eurweb excerpt of a new article he gave to a California based women’s magazine..
Even months after an extra marital affair became public, J Moss says a lump is swelling I his throat as he recalls confessing to Melanie, his wife that he’d cheated.
Moss describes the moment he spoke those words as “horrific,” but wanted to tell her before rumors of his 2008 affair got out of control.
“It’s ironic. The very person that I defied, betrayed and cheated and hurt so badly saved my life, he confides, meaning those words literally.
Defaming comments from the blogsphere had taken their toll on the acclaimed, singer, writer and producer to the point that he contemplated taking his life multiple times.
“I was extremely depressed, it was a dark time for me. That was the point I wanted to take my life. I was plotting it out. I had the gun in my hands a few times, pills in my hands …”
Moss shares these and other shocking revelations in an exclusive one-on-one in “Precious Times” magazine about an extra marital relationship that produced his third son and the restoration he has experienced since the fall out.
What Moss experienced wasn’t caused by bloggers, but are a result of sin’s embedded consequences. Once you wade into sin, even if its private there are consequences that you cannot control because God puts them out of reach. Check out King David’s private adultery in 2 Samuel 11, 12.
The really important lesson here is for followers of Christ in these types of professions. You cannot bling, profile and cavort with the world and its jacked up ideology and follow Jesus. Holiness is a standard for you, too.
As I did during the first Hey, J. Moss post, here’s some updated advice.
1. Donate a sizable portion of the earnings from your new album to an organization which helps to educate the black community about abortion prevention.
2. Record a song about how fathers should care for their children and not abort them.
3. Stay faithful to your wife and don’t forget about your son in Georgia.