New study: gay couples don't value monogamy

Please understand the marriage wars are far from over. But new information proves that the oft mocked slippery slope is indeed a very slippery reality. Since the homosexual community has enlisted the gay church as its lackeys to sanctify what God has called abominable, let’s just be sure  we know what they are demanding we be “accepting” of. Lifesite News carried the following out of San Francisco:

In discussing a new study confirming that polygamy is a staple within gay “marriages,” a New York Times article has suggested that doing away with the concept of spousal fidelity in marriage represents an “evolution” that “might point the way for the survival of the institution.”

NYT columnist Scott James reported January 28 on a project by San Francisco State University’s Center for Research on Gender and Sexuality examining various aspects of homosexual relationships.  James says the study, which is scheduled for release this month, “reveals that monogamy is not a central feature for many.”

“Some gay men and lesbians argue that, as a result, they have stronger, longer-lasting and more honest relationships,” the article continues.  “And while that may sound counterintuitive, some experts say boundary-challenging gay relationships represent an evolution in marriage — one that might point the way for the survival of the institution.”

Colleen Hoff, one of the study’s researchers, remarked: “With straight people, it’s called affairs or cheating, but with gay people it does not have such negative connotations.”

Steve Weinstein, the editor-in-chief of the gay news service EDGE Boston, said that the research could be placed into “the category of ‘studies that confirm the painfully obvious.'”

James also admits that “none of this is news in the gay community, but few will speak publicly about it,” with many expressing fear that “discussing the subject could undermine the legal fight for same-sex marriage.”

Joe Quirk, author of the sex-themed bestseller “It’s Not You, It’s Biology,” argued that “the combination of freedom and mutual understanding can foster a unique level of trust.”

“If innovation in marriage is going to occur, it will be spearheaded by homosexual marriages,” said Quirk.

Scott James, the writer of the NYT article suggests that destroying the concept of spousal fidelity is an “evolution”. James is the same gay writer who launched the so-called homphobia attack on Vallejo, CA mayor Osby Davis.

So let’s understand where approving homosexual marriage is leading us. Countless people have warned already homosexual marriage is at best a parody and at worst a leading indicator of the disintegration of our society. Whether delayed or immediate, direct or indirect,  we and our children will suffer the consequences for such a foolish and emotional decision. Even with divorce and other negative factors affecting male-female marriage, there exists no common acceptance among male-female marriage to allow one’s spouse sexual relationships outside the marriage. Yet now the homosexual media itself acknowledges what the gay rights agenda wants to equalize is based on a  destructive view of relationships.

For your deceptive pleasure, its being repackaged as “equality”, equal rights”, “civil rights” and “marriage equality”.  All of the fake media-driven photos of happyfied homosexual couples mean nothing. Behind the propaganda photos, these people reject the very basis of what God-ordained, God-created and God-approved marriage constitutes. Covenant with one person of the opposite gender. The people of God should in no way approve, sanction or be complicit in helping to destroy God’s foundations for the family.

When God blessed the union of man and woman in Genesis it formed an everlasting standard for what is acceptable to Him, the creator.

How you can help cripple the homosexual marriage machine:

1. Stop voting for or supporting any political candidate —whether local or national— who favors legalizing homosexual marriage in any context. 1b. Be vocal in demanding they go on record with their beliefs.

2. Demand that church leaders stop supporting and/or allowing prohomosexual political candidates access to Sunday morning pulpits in exchange for backroom favors.

3. Stop promoting or purchasing merchandise produced by any Christian artist who aligns themselves with homosexual marriage or behavior as acceptable to God.

4. As followers of Jesus Christ, make sure you  always uphold God’s standard for marriage. 1 [biological]man with 1 [biological] woman for life.

5. If you are single  Christian and committing sexual fornication, stop now and learn to possess your body in sanctification and honor. This is the will of God. 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8

6. Pray. The fervent effectual prayer of the righteous availeth much.


32 thoughts on “New study: gay couples don't value monogamy

  1. All fornicators will have their part in the Lake of Fire and there will be no escape. Don’t stand before a Holy God on Judgment Day having not repented from voting for a candidate that unwaveringly supports homosexuality and abortion(they go hand and hand). You have been warned there is no excuse.

  2. Honestly, Robert (and this isnt to you specifically) before we start talking hellfire, lets not concede anything on earth. Jesus said we would take this fight (for righteousness) to the gates of hell and it would not prevail against his church.

    That’s where I am with this. Im not even thinking hellfire. Im thinking the kingdom of God can and will prevail on earth before we get to the inevitable.

    I believe as I listed there is much to be corrected among us to stymie the growth of sin and its degenerating effects on our society. Some of that involves taking responsibility for our own actions in not upholding God’s standards.

  3. Just like the devil, never tells the whole truth of the matter. If these facts come out thinking people will question the homosexual agenda.

    Its not about gay marriage, its about sexual freedom isnt it? Its my body so I should not be inhibited in how I use it, as long as I am “hurting” anyone.

    We can look around and see the destructive nature of such sexual liberty however it does not deter the sin of man from wanting it until the something happens to us. “mans heart is desperatly wicked”

    “has god said?”, this is the question that plagues man even now to our demise. If we think God didnt say it, then its someone trying to keep us from having a really good time, WE ARE OUR OWN GOD, just what the devil told eve!

    Yes, we must fight and live Christ before this evil world. Vote correctly, if we are to vote. We dont know what an indiviual may do once in power however we must choose the “man” we think most exemplifies what our Christian values are.


  4. It’s not my intent to address the question of how widespread the views expressed in the referenced article are, but I do have a few remarks.

    First, I really doubt the percentage of gays who do or do not “value monogamy”, has any bearing on gcmwatch’s view of what the public policy regarding marriage should be.

    Second, I have plenty of gay friends who *do* “value monogamy”.

    Third, I’m missed any references made in this article to the views of those in the “gay christian movement” that is being watched here.

  5. bix, your protest has been duly noted. However, the article (the original one) isnt about gays who do value or practice monogamy. Its about those who dont…and its rather widespread implications.

    That being said, you are exactly right. I dont care if 110 percent of homosexuals practice monogamy with 100% success rate, homosexuality and homosexual marriage 100% wrong. Its like trying to put pearls on a pig.

    Secondly, we’ve documented the gay christian movement views on gay marriage many times before. Take some time and read. They predictably mirror those of the political gay movement.

  6. As usual, not alot of time here, but I just want to say that relying on the documentation on this site I’d be led to believe the gcm is much more monolithic than it really is. That has not been my experience.

    As a sidenote, I suspect that the *political* gay movement isn’t as monolithic as some would be led to believe, as discussed in the book “Queer Wars” by Paul Robinson.

  7. It would be fairly easy to disprove that if that is your contention. Just present documented information to the contrary. I cited the article from gay sources who said gay couples do not value monogamy. In response you said you had “plenty of gay friends who do value monogamy”. You didnt even say how many “plenty” was. 5, 10, 14? Plenty doesnt tell us anything.
    Secondly, people may “value” monogamy but not practice it as a preferred lifestyle. Of course you wouldnt know whether your “plenty” gay friends actually do this, cause you dont keep track of their sexual behavior to the extent of knowing this as a fact.

  8. Pastor Foster posted: Secondly, people may “value” monogamy but not practice it as a preferred lifestyle. Of course you wouldnt know whether your “plenty” gay friends actually do this, cause you dont keep track of their sexual behavior to the extent of knowing this as a fact.

    My response: Vice Versa!

  9. Basically Pastor Foster, niether does the gay people who came up with this report is in “my bedroom” or in the “bedroom’s” of many of friends who do not only value “monogamy” but practice it!

    Besides, Marriage is about equality..not sex…

  10. Min. Antwoine Williams said:
    Besides, Marriage is about equality..not sex…

    Where is that in the Bible? My Bible says The man is the head of the woman just as Christ is the head of the Church. The institution of marriage is what allows sex between a man and a woman and is the only form of sex that is not fornication.

    Saying marriage is about equality in the way your describing it is a principal in the Kingdom of satan not Christ. Equality in the Body of Christ stops at Salvation. The Bible says all who accept Christ and follow are sons and daughters of Abraham. Ok but there are Elders, Deacons, and the 5 Fold Ministry who are the Leaders of the local Body of Believers. Not all those positions are equal and certainly not with Sally or Bob who just got Saved. There is order in the House of God and to have order you must have rank.

  11. Okay so you have a problem with your gay compadres. Make sure you register your complaint at the San Francisco Chronicle.

    Sure you say that marriage is not about sex because you cant produce any children with another man so understandably you devalue it.

    Marriage —created by God— is intimately about sex. Sexual intercourse to male-female marriage is what a soul is to the body.

  12. “Marriage is not about sex but equality”, that statement is way out and yes, feuled by the inability of homosexuals to have children, naturally that is.

    Well according to scripture it is after sex that the two become one flesh. This is exactly why sex is only for marriage.

    Genisis 2:24
    For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.

    I corinthians 6:16
    Or do you not know that the one who joins himself to a prostitute is one body with her? For He says, “THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH.”

  13. To Paul, Robert and Pastor Foster..

    Im sorry, I should have made my statement differently. The push for Gay Marriage is about “equality”, “justice” etc…the legal right to marry who you love no matter their gender is what I was referring too.

    So, the argument for Gay Marriage at least in my humble opinon has nothing to do with whether or not some “gay couples” values “monogamy” or not, but about the individual right to marry who you desire….

    get it? got it…

  14. Min. Antwoine Williams said:

    To Paul, Robert and Pastor Foster..

    Im sorry, I should have made my statement differently. The push for Gay Marriage is about “equality”, “justice” etc…the legal right to marry who you love no matter their gender is what I was referring too.

    So, the argument for Gay Marriage at least in my humble opinon has nothing to do with whether or not some “gay couples” values “monogamy” or not, but about the individual right to marry who you desire….

    get it? got it…

    I guess gays want to be married for the tax breaks, may I had the devil wrong the whole time.*rolls eyes* The point of being married is to be monogamous.

    Since God’s formula for marriage never changes (man and woman) how do you suppose you can twist God’s arm? Let’s look to the Word.

    Isaiah 43:10″You are My witnesses,” declares the LORD,
    “And My servant whom I have chosen,
    So that you may know and believe Me
    And understand that I am He
    Before Me there was no God formed,
    And there will be none after Me.
    11″I, even I, am the LORD,
    And there is no savior besides Me.
    12″It is I who have declared and saved and proclaimed,
    And there was no strange god among you;
    So you are My witnesses,” declares the LORD,
    “And I am God.
    13″Even from eternity I am He,
    And there is none who can deliver out of My hand;
    I act and who can reverse it?”

    Man’s law has no effect on the Bible. The Word will still say homosexuality is sinful and there is not one Biblical example of a gay marriage, well maybe there was in Sodom when it was a city until God you know……

  15. This underscores how important it is for all people, regardless of their sexuality, to be welcomed into churches and to be taught christian values of sexual morality. We may not stop homosexuals from sleeping with other homosexuals, but we can certainly offer them monogomous covenant relationships. We cannot continue to try to exclude homosexuals from churches, and then be critical of them for being unchurched.

  16. “We may not stop homosexuals from sleeping with other homosexuals, but we can certainly offer them monogomous covenant relationships.”

    And where, pray tell, is your biblical support for “offering homosexuals monogamous covenant relationships”? Please dont give any more ideology, show me in the scriptures where such things are supposed to be offered to homosexuals.

  17. I really have to disagree with you Amos. Most gays I have known have too much contempt for the Church and its followers. They always are undermining fellowship, doctrine, relationships. That is not to say that troublemakers don’t come in heterosexual form, but gays want validation from the Church more than acceptance. That is in direct contradiction with God’s word. And a house divided can’t stand, a message/teaching in contradiction with God’s word can’t stand either. I’m sorry, but from what I’ve seen personally and read/observed, gays want sexual hedonism to rule. That is the endgame. Gay marriage is just a tactic, which must be stopped at the outset.

  18. Your article is supported of social isolation for gays is why the Christian brand of spirituality is loosing – and loosing badly. No one likes to be forced to live like “you want” them to live. Christianity as you see it Pastor Foster is excessive, control-oriented monotheism. The God you serve seems to rule with the eternal “loaded gun” to the heads of all believers.

    As for homosexuals and polygamy, the author of that survey certainly is a nuttcase. I have many, many gay friends who find polygamy repulsive. So its important to note that even if this study was formulated in a way that adhered to appropriate statistical requirements for validity (which I doubt), it is limited and by no means representative of the entir the homosexual population.

  19. Uhhh Tony welcome back. I guess.
    Let’s correct some things.

    First, “Christiainity” is not God. We know that’s true by just looking at the gay christian movement and other false movements that co-op the word Christian. They love using the moniker, but the proof is in the fruit of how they live. As with any true=false scenario, if one claims to be something they are not, the only way to prove it is to look at the qualifications associated with the claim. Its very simple. But the reason you dont like that is because you dont meet the qualifications based on what the bible says. And thats why you see God as “controlling” because you are outside his will. When you repent of your sins, your perspective will change. In fact, when a person controls themselves, they are not in relationship with THE LORD Jesus Christ. Look up the meaning of the word LORD and you’ll see why its important to be controlled by Christ and filled with the Spirit of God. So your first statement is polluted with your own perspective. Given your carnal mindset, I dont expect you to comprehend what Ive said. Again, you never will as long as you are on the outside looking in.

    Second, there is no evidence someone is being “forced” to live like we want them to live. If that’s a true statement give some names and contacts and we can ask them straight up. So, thats another untruth unless you can provide evidence.

    Third, find the author and originators of the study and article and register your complaint with them. Im sure they would love to hear from you. Make sure you come back and let us know their response to you. Like the other person who claimed they had “many” gay friends who dont believe in polygamy, you have not qualified that statement. What’s many? How many is many? 10, 15, 22? Count ’em up and lets us know so we can do some kind of comparative adjustment.

  20. Tony,

    Even if many homosexuals are monogamous what makes you feel God would approve of such behavior?

    Before you answer let us assume that God created everything.

    With that being said, why would God create homosexuals, particularly male to male homosexuals, who’s sexual behavior is physically detrimental over the period of their life?

    If God in his infinite wisdom created Homosexuals then He apparently has a sadistic side to him in that the very Homosexuals He created are engaging in physically abusive sexual activity in the long run.

    Tony, You can’t honestly in your heart say that Homosex is natural or healthy can you?

    Now I would agree that there are all kinds of activities that people engage in that are unnatural however no one would say God made them do it.


  21. @Kyle,

    I find it hillarious that “Macho” types always jump to the undesirable imagery of male2male sexuality. Your repulsion to us is based in your sexuality and biological aversion to homosexuality (which is cool – I get that).

    However, as for the equating of “homosexuality as natural” with a sadistic God, man, consider people born with “other defects, or biological errors” like hermaphrodites, and kids born severely deformed et al, or with down syndrome, others severely mentally disabled. My point is God allows all kinds of people to be physically born unperfect, Homosexuals aren’t any different. So in this light, i suppose you view God as sadistic?

  22. @Foster

    I’m glad we finally agree on something: Christianity is not God. It is manmade. Handled by fallible men, and not so much with care. God transcends anything and everybody. I certainly no longer subscribe to a hate-mongering, cruel God who creates people only to burn them in some lake of fire [forever]. I didn’t choose to be gay. Nor to be thown out of churches, nor to upset God’s order by being [ME] naturally. How can I continue in a religion that denies my very existence and tells me I CHOICE to be deviant????

    This will be my last post on here. I cry as I write this. I’m so tired of Christianity. I’m done with it.


  23. I’ve been praying over this thread, and the Lord gave me James 2:13. “For judgment is without mercy to the one who has shown no mercy. Mercy triumphs over judgment.”

    I would be interested to know what scriptures the law gives to each of the others who have posted here, when you pray for guidance on this issue.

  24. Sorry – there was a typo. I’ll try again…

    I’ve been praying over this thread, and the Lord gave me James 2:13. “For judgment is without mercy to the one who has shown no mercy. Mercy triumphs over judgment.”

    I would be interested to know what scriptures the LORD gives to each of the others who have posted here, when you pray for guidance on this issue.

  25. Amos, youre all over the place and its difficult to see what point youre trying to make if any at all. I’ll give you two choices: Stay focused on the discussion at hand or I’ll delete comments that are sideshows.

  26. To those of the homosexual community who have written on this post, first allow me to say those of us who are of the household of faith do not serve a cruel malicous God. We serve a loving, merciful and just God, who made man in the perfection of His own image, who place us in a garden where we would have no want, but an act of “willing” disobedience cancelled all that. Alas sin entered the world, but notice the Lord our God could’ve right there destroyed us, but He did not, did He cast us out of the garden, “yes”, but His love covered us, and in that love He promised us a deliverer. But because of the sin of our first parents, it was then imputed unto all mankind, for the wages of sin is death, but the promised deliverer has come, and as Adam’s sin was imputed to us, so Christ righteousness is imputed to us, when we accept the plan of salvation. Those of the homosexual community, you were not born to be homosexual, it is the power of sin that compels your thinking, some of you say, why did God allow sin into the world, you must understand God is a just God and will not force Himself on anyone, because He doesn’t have to, but understand if we don’t accept His plan of saving grace, it is we who condemn ourselves not Him.

    Some of you believe that we who are of the christian community are cruel, well I will not deny that some us are cruel and have no tact, but do not mistake cruelity for that which you want to be accepted and being that its not accepted then you claim cruelity and lack of love. Love does not look over a person(s) faults, but love is not a fault finder, for if I love you w/a Godly love, I will not look over your fault, but see you for who you are and where you are and rebuke/correct you accordingly, remember only the Spirit of God can cause a person to see there error and that is if you allow Him and not harden your heart (those of us in the christian community can attest to that). Those of you who are homosexual are walking in error (and doesn’t mean others aren’t walking in error, anyone who doesn’t no Christ and doesn’t adhere to the true doctrine is walking in error) but were talking about the subject of homosexuality, some of you I believe know your walking in error, but like we can as humans at times walk in open/willing denial refusing to see things as they are, christian and non christian are guility of that. But I can assure those of who walk in the sin/error of homosexuality that my hand might not always be extended to you, I might believe you could never change, but there is someone whose hand is always extended to you, always looking for you, aching to lead out of darkness into light.

    Willing to put up w/you cursing Him for what He did for you, putting up w/you openly denying Him, because He want accept your lifestyle, no He want accept your lifestyle because it separates you from Him and from others. I’m more than aware that not all who are of the homosexual community and have written on this post will receive me, but if it is only one, then praise be to God, for I’m not concerned about you receiving me, but receiving Him who went to the cross for you. There are some of the homosexual community who probably can’t wait to crucify me, for my words and comments, well my Master once said, “if they hate me they will hate you, for the servant is not greater than the Master.”

    Hell was not created for you who are of this community, you were created to be w/a loving God forever, but the choice is yours, you can close your heart and see Him as cruel because you choose to, you can read His word and not accept it, because it doesn’t accept your lifestyle, you can read His word, and accept it for what you want to see it as, by adding and taking from it to fit your agenda (and we of the household of faith are guility of that) and turn your back on His love or you can open your heart, allow Him to show you your true condition, and once you’ve seen it for what it is, allow Him to wash you and make you clean, whiter than snow, you will justified as if you never sinned, but you must be willing to see that for which He will show you about yourself and the condition that you believed you were born as. To the gcm author, I didn’t mean to preach, but my heart goes out to those who walk in this darkness and are in bondage/stronghold, but praise be to God, for His word which is powerful for the pulling down of strongholds. Loving you all.

  27. Tony,

    Nicely written post!

    Are the homosexuals who have confessed Jesus Christ as Lord and has beleived that God has raised him from the dead (Romans 10:9) not a part of the household of faith?

    If good behavior doesn’t save us then how is it that bad behavior can condemn us? Is the sin of Adam more powerful than the blood of Christ?

  28. Dear Behold,

    Thank you for responding, I will attempt to answer your question as I yeild and submit to the Holy Spirit and also to that Word which the Spirit has indwelt me with. The bk of proverbs says, “a good man falls seven times, but he gets up”, now it is Solomon under the unction of the Spirit, saying because your human and frail you will fall, but because you lead a consistent life before Christ, you will remain “steadfast immoveable, and will always abide in the faith.” But the epistle of James says, “a double minded man is unstable in all his ways, and think not he get anything from God” this double minded man is may I say “straddling” the fence, and he’s all over the place, not keeping his hands to the plow. The Lord speaks to us out of the parable of the sower of the seed, (4) individuals he speaks of and ironically (3) end up not really being saved at all only the (4). The other (3) are basically “emotional” converts and when the Word is truly spoken to them in its proper context, and conviction comes, they eventually “depart” from the the faith, because of the Word. Also let us remember another Word spoken by the Word himself, “you will say on that day, I laid hands on the sick and they recovered, I prophesied in your name, and I will say to you, depart from me you worker of inquitity, I never knew you.” The Word of God is quick and powerful sharper than any (2) edged sword and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. Now I know you study the Word of God, and I will discontinue my scripture quoting and leave the rest for you to analyze and examine w/an open heart, remember one of the ministries of the Holy Spirit which is so often forgotten and purposely I might add is “CONVICTION” not to harm us, but yes make us feel uncomfortable. Always remember the enemy of your soul will always tell you what you want to hear, but God will not always tell you what you want to hear, for the flesh and the Spirit are always warring, for the flesh, “even though we praise God in this flesh and must bring in under subjection” will alwaays be an enemy of God. A friend.

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