Actor, comedian, author, and radio personality Steve Harvey made an appearance on the Trinity Broadcast Network’s (TBN) show, Praise the Lord. Airing May 11th, 2010 with Paula White as the host, Harvey talked about his book, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.” He specifically discussed the “90 day rule.” This rule tells women to put a man on probation before giving away any “benefits.” Harvey went on to state that he knows that the Bible says a person should wait until s/he gets married to have sex and he agrees with that whole-heartedly. But he states that since people are not going to wait until marriage to have sex, they should at least wait for 90 days. Paula White wholeheartedly agreed with him and didn’t correct him at all! The crowd laughed in agreement. The Bible warns us in Jude 18-19, “How that they told you there should be mockers in the last time, who should walk after their own ungodly lusts. These be they who separate themselves, sensual, having not the Spirit.”
First, this interview is disturbing because it takes place on Christian television! It would have been somewhat acceptable if it were aired on a secular station or radio show. The nature of Harvey’s statement would have been more understandable and expected. We as believers could have just passed his statements off as worldly wisdom with a roll of the eyes upward.
Secondly, his statement boldly goes against the Word of God. God doesn’t grade sin on a curve. He doesn’t look at certain situations and say “…ok I’ll let you slide by on that one because you can’t help yourself.” This is a prime example of cheap grace. God is a holy God. The Word says, “Be ye holy for I am Holy.” (Leviticus 11:45).
Harvey’s book may make some good points for women. But is his book’s wisdom of God or earthly? James 3:15 says, “This wisdom descendeth not from above, but earthly, sensual, devilish.” The book my offer some good advice for women to follow, but telling them they can’t abstain from fornication is earthly, sensual, and downright demonic. His advice is within the guidelines of the world system. Godly wisdom within the kingdom of God falls under James 3:17 which says, “But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy, and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.” When a person walks in the wisdom of God, they will first be pure, have good fruit. The good fruit a person shows from abstaining from fornication will manifest as two parts of the fruit of the Spirit: longsuffering (endurance and patience) and temperance( having control or mastery over one’s desires or passions).
The ironic part of this interview was Harvey began to sound like the serpent in the Garden of Eden. He basically tells others what the Word of God says and agrees with it, “Abstain from sex before marriage!” But then slyly adds, “hardly any Christians keep the Word of God anyway. So since we all know you’re not going to abstain, its okay to do it…just wait 90 days until you do.” He speaks as if the Word has loopholes in it. These types of comments are just like those of the serpent when he told Eve that she would be as gods (Genesis 3:5) deciding for herself what is good and evil instead of leaning on understanding of the Word of God and keeping His Word. This type of nature is rooted in Satanism. Aleister Crowley’s, Book of the Law states “Do as thou wilt, is the whole book of the law, which means I can do as I please and I don’t have to line up with the Word of God.” Even in Anton Lavey nine satanic commandments of the Satanic Bible, the first commandment is that Satan represents indulgences instead of abstinence. First Thessalonians 4:3 states, “For this the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication.” The key word is to abstain from fornication, not to indulge in fornication by giving a man sexual benefits after a 90-day probation period. This is outside the will of God.
One may ask Shofarsound what is the big deal? It just fornication! God understands I have needs that must be met. Everybody in my church is having sex and they aren’t married. They still sing in the choir. They’re preaching. They’re teaching. They’re still serving on the usher board. Does that mean you follow the broad road to destruction (Matthew 7:13)? If everyone jumps off the bridge are you going jump also? I don’t think so!
Biblical View on Fornication
The Old Testament viewed premarital sex as a capital offense against one’s future spouse. This was unlike the Gentile nations that condoned premarital sex. The Greek word for fornication is porneuo, which means to act like a harlot, indulge in unlawful lust of either sex, or practice idolatry – fornication. Fornication is idolatry, because that person you sleep with isn’t your spouse. You’re bowing down to get in the bed with your idol instead of obeying the Word of God. It is idolatry when an individual places a person they’re consistently fornicating with over the Word. First Samuel 15:23 states, “stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry.”
That person you’re sleeping with is an idol in your heart and it is evident that the Holy Spirit doesn’t reign supreme in your life. Every time that person calls you jump up and run to him/her. The next thing you know, you’re in the sack. The Holy Spirit calls out to you in order to lead and guide you into all truth. That person means no good for your spirituality. Instead of listening, you turn a deaf ear to the voice of Godly wisdom.
First Corinthians 6:18-20 says, “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.” Our body is the temple of the Holy Ghost. When you fornicate you desecrate your temple. You sin against your own body. If you continue in the sin of fornication you will die. Romans 6:23 tells us that the wages of sin is death. You may eventually earn a sexually transmitted disease that attacks your physical body.
Fornication Destroys the Soul
Sexual sins destroys the soul (Proverbs 6:32). The Greek word for soul is called psuche, which derives psychology study of the soul. Your soul is made up of the intellect, will, memory, emotions, and imagination. First example your involve in fornication, Your intellect or reasoning will tell you that you’re in love with him or her so its ok to have sex before marriage. You essentially rely on your own understanding instead of the Word of God. Secondly, after you intellectualize being in a sexual relationship your will is given unto your carnal desires. Thirdly, you will have memories of the good and bad things of the illicit relationship. Why do you think someone can be in the act of intercourse with one person and call out another person’s name? It is because the soul connection of the memory is still there. The person is comparing their present sexual experience with a former. The fourth example is the emotions. You develop the emotion of bitterness. Because of your memory, you remember all the bad relationships you had in the past. A person develops bitterness and emotional detachment. So when man or woman of God comes to you, your’re damage goods from all the bad relationships you had in the past. You’re unable to make that godly connection. Lastly is the imagination. The enemy uses the imagination to keep sexual perverse thoughts in your head and to prevent you from being obedient to the will of God.
So whether 90 days or 20 years, if you’re not married you need to abstain from fornication. We all must keep in mind that fornicators shall not inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9; Galatians 5:19-21). Ecclesiastes 12:13 says, “Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.” Keep His commandments and the Holy Spirit will give you keeping power to overcome the devil, the world, and your flesh. So will you listen to the Word of God or Steve Harvey?